Death is such a dark and scary topic to bring up, but it’s something that will eventually happen to all of us. As daunting as that may be to hear, everyone treats their mind and bodies differently. Some of us choose to eat healthy, drink lots of water and exercise regularly or completely the opposite. This is not aimed to encourage giving up on yourself, more to promote that sometimes its good to be a little bit bad and that we all should be living a balanced, happy and fulfilling life while we are still present. So, don’t be too disciplined, give yourself a break, live a little more, be a good person and let out your inner bad bitch!
Are you proud of what you have achieved in life so far? It is never too late to start now.
In saying that, I have a bucket list below entailing some personal life goals I see fit to enable a perfectly balanced life.
Learn a different language
Become worldly and gain the knowledge of a second language. Attend classes in your local area or download an application on your smart device. Ashton Kutcher told me personally to download this one called “Duolingo” an application that allows you to learn multiple different languages, with the option to teach you how to flirt. I have chosen French. Il fait chaud ici, ou bien est-ce juste oi? Meaning: Is it hot in here, or is that just you? It’s great if you have connections with real celebrities, which is why I would like to go a head and retract my comment about Ashton Kutcher. I don’t know him What-so-ever, I just follow him on social media. Oops!
Go on an adventure
The first place I ever visited overseas was Bali with my family at the age of 13. Travel is strongly advised. Roam the world and meet a variety of different people. Climb a mountain with your friends, early enough to see the sunrise. You might surprise yourself with how accomplishing it feels. I have also visited Thailand on a girls trip and visited Singapore, Bangkok and Phuket. I learned how to shoot rifles, ride elephants and relaxed in the comfort of the Shangri-La Hotel where I wore a robe, drank cocktails and ate at high teas. Just pick a place and GO! Vacate through Europe, I visited one of the Greek Islands called Santorini for my best friends wedding in Oia. I will forever have a memory of the picturesque view of the clear blue water by the mountains of white and blue cave like houses, late blazing sunsets, Ian Rosé and cocktails amongst life bonding friendships.
Do something entirely selfish
Being selfish isn’t so easy to do, unless you are self dependant. Everyone has their challenges. whether you work to much or have unique life circumstances, you must find the will to do something entirely for yourself even if its only 10-30 minutes a day. Go for a walk 6 days a week, Attend an art class, Join a pole dancing fitness group, visit the beach and meditate to the crashing waves. Find the time and do it, even if it means setting an alarm to get up 1 hour early to achieve it.
Do something selfless
We all get so wound up in our own lives that sometimes we forget to ask others how they are going. Don’t forget about your friends, help them when they are in need. Sometimes people are too afraid or stubborn to ask for help, visit them and check on them from time to time. Even better help a complete stranger or even give to charity. Make it a habit.
Learn about music
Ancient, classic, modern contemporary, RNB or rap music. Learn the roots of music and connect emotionally. Its therapeutic, listening to your favourite beats and becomes expressive to our inner demons. Even better, learn a musical instrument or educate yourself with singing lessons. Music especially singing can help you become more confident and boost your ability to speak publicly.
Learn First Aid
Medical knowledge that could potentially save someone else’s life or your own is a pretty handy thing to have. Yes I know that I mentioned, we all die some day. But that doesn’t mean we want it to be a short life. So many people have illnesses such as diabetes, asthma and more and more people are suffering from allergic reactions everyday. Why not be prepared and find out how you can help in the event of an emergency that could be life threatening. Who knows you may be walking past a celeb like Tom Hardy one day and coincidentally take his breath away, Literally and get the opportunity to commence CPR. But in all seriousness you could potentially save someone’s life who is very close to you.
Play a team sport
A part from my schooling years and the odd charity sporting event, I never signed up to an actual team sport out of school until the ripe age of 25. I wish I had of joined a sport in my earlier years. There are so many qualities to a team sport, not only do you get the opportunity to form great friendships, you get the opportunity to really mould your emotional intelligence, learn how to work really hard with dedication towards a team goal and create team morale, stay extremely fit and potentially stay out of trouble or avoid the wrong crowd growing up. The earlier you get involved the better, however it’s never too late to start getting active… even just a casual game of touch footy for beginners would be a good start. I played Gridiron for my first team sport as a TE on the Offense Line, the technical strategy of the play book really stimulated my mind. Highly recommended!
Take cooking classes
There is nothing more attractive than someone who knows how to cook and even better, someone who is a good cook! Learn to cook your favourite cuisine, host a dinner party and set your standards high, HELL even aim for a degustation menu. Degustation’s are a lot of work, but are worth the achievement if you love a challenge. Get cultural and try learning how to make a dish from each of your favourite countries.
Fall in love
Falling in love is not so easy, but it is magic no matter what form it comes in (good or bad). I am a fairly stubborn girl (If you share stubborn qualities you would know how extremely hard this is to admit) and I never thought I would be able to give in to love again after my previous experiences, but it’s imperative not to give up… You find love in the most unexpected ways. Sounds cheesy, but it’s the dud relationships that mould us into who we are and help us decipher what it is we really want in a relationship and how to go about it. Those bad past encounters, help us define what love actually is and all those dud first dates make for pretty hilarious stories to your best friend. If you have already found love and it’s the lasting kind then keep that type alive and well, to the best of your abilities. If that doesn’t work, then aim for a different type of love. Love your pets, love your children or love a hobby or find something else stimulating to you. Loving in general is good for your soul!
Be honest with yourself
There is nothing more gratifying than being an honest person and being honest with yourself is the first step. Everyone has experienced self doubt in their life times. I very much dislike the feeling of doubt or like I have done the wrong thing, which is why being honest with yourself and others is empowering and self-fulfilling. That doesn’t mean that we go an rub it in to other people’s faces, just how good we think we are. It is however, a self fulfilling confidence in life knowing you’re a good person who would never have ill intent.
Learn from your experiences
Make mistakes, but stop making the same ones. Learn from every experience and move on to the next chapter with more knowledge. Try to teach others your mistakes if they will listen. If they don’t listen, they will eventually learn and then they WILL wish they listened all along. In my experience if you are one of those people who repeatedly have the same mistake happen over and over… you’re clearly missing something. Think harder and decipher what the real message is from the universe, you’re probably doing it wrong! Make better choices.
Change to a healthier life style
Get into fitness, stay fit and change to a healthier more practical lifestyle. I don’t mean try endless yo-yo diets and eat rabbit food for rest of your life, just make healthier choices. Cut a few things out of your normal diet during the week (like cheese, carbs and dairy) and indulge on the weekends instead. Join an 8 to 12 week program and be disciplined during that time. I highly recommend yoga, its great for your well-being, eases stress, helps with blood circulation and increases your flexibility and is the least likely exercise to cause an injury. For those wanting to lose weight, try for a more intense workout like boot camp with functional exercises or a boxing/martial arts program. But most importantly look after your mind! Depression is on the rise and its really easy to slip into the darkness after an array of mishaps that occur in day to day life (sometimes life just SUCKS!!!). Vent to someone close to you or seek guidance from a councillor or doctor if your thoughts are harmful to you or possibly to another and be honest about your true feelings. Exercising and up-keeping an active lifestyle also helps produce endorphins which helps aid depression and anxiety when life gets too tough!
Read and write more often
Imagine how the world would be if the majority of us actually found the time to read more often, write more often and shared our knowledge. Go back to university, study to your hearts content. Writing is perfect for people who cant turn their brain off, get writing, put all that extra thinking to good use. The world will evolve into a better place if we all just had that little extra education. Writing makes me happy.
Easier said than done, right!? WRONG! You don’t have to have money to be rich and if you are very well off financially, stay humble and true to yourself because money changes people. Some change for the better and some for the worst! I’m not financially rich but I have good values and perception with the ability to see the bigger picture and evolve as an individual… and that makes me rich. I have watched families and friends close to me fight over money, business and lifestyle out of pure jealousy and it really isn’t pretty and is very damaging. It’s so easy to look at someone elses life and think that you want what they have. But it’s time you recognise the qualities you have that are unique to this world and stay true to them. Don’t worry about other people’s success over your own. Everyone is so wound up on status these days…the first question people ask when meeting for the first time is “Hey, what’s your name and what do you do for a living?” … It can seem judgemental. It’s okay to ask those questions eventually when getting to know each other, if executed effectively with genuine interest. I am sure that we would all agree that the financial type of richness would be nice also…however be realistic and take it slow, work hard and stay motivated and you WILL achieve your goals.
Life is about balance. Do everything in moderation in aim to live a happy one, by working on your knowledge and experience and creating lasting memories of the footprints you have left in this world.